Never have, never will. It makes me extremely uncomfortable. I’m a very straightforward person with most things, and if I think it’ll be a problem later I usually bring problems to the forefront of the relationship to begin with.
I like my friends because they’re mostly the same way. Until today.
Alright, so recently my group of friends expanded by about five or six because I became friends with a girl who introduced me to her friends and I introduced her and her friends to my friends. Between the ten/twelve of us, we all get along as well as people in that size of a group can.
Putting it in the most vague terms possible, things happened and a person who knew about it started telling other people, and the people who were actually involved did not want it spread around that this had happened.
One of the people involved confronted said person and told them they weren’t happy with what that person had done (by talking about it without asking first). That person got mad about being confronted.
That conflict came to a head today when the loose-lipped person’s spouse said something that didn’t sound right, and another friend went off on her. The friend walks away. Spouse cries. Loose-lips gets really angry.
Spouse calls the friend who originally confronted the issue and apologizes and tells the friend that she was sorry and that it didn’t come out how she wanted it to. Everything is peachy. Until Loose-lips addresses the entire group in a dick move that basically says that we were all to blame for what he started. (“You should all feel bad for making my wife cry!”)
Now, I wouldn’t be mad about this since I’m not involved, but Loose-lips rubs me the wrong way to begin with. The friend who confronted him is a good friend of mine, and I agree that what he was telling everybody he probably shouldn’t be telling everybody, and it’s common sense.
I’m mad at him because he didn’t have the class (or the balls) to keep the conflict private, like his confronter did, and address the person who made his wife cry himself. His wife apologized for herself (and I like her so I feel bad about that already), and he still wants to fight about it.
I’m mad because I have to see him every Monday and Wednesday, and I really don’t want to talk to him about this. I’m like Switzerland. I’m flipping neutral unless it directly involves me. Always.
I’m mad because I might possibly lose a good friend in his wife because he wants to “protect” her from us. Because I feel like he’s going to lump all of us in together.
I’m mad. I don’t want to lose them as friends but I could care less about Loose-lips if he’s going to be a complete and utter dick about something that he did.
Plus I’m mad because this is something my dad would do. Loose-lips rubs me the wrong way because he’s so much like my dad, and if you’ve ever read my posts about my dad… I don’t think all that highly of him really. We butt heads a lot.
